I used to host an out-of-school time program at my library called Friday Fun. It was me, an intern, and anywhere between five and fifteen 9-14 year old boys who gave up an hour and a half of their computer time to hang out with us each week. The story of Friday Fun is longer, but the short of it is that these were the kids who said "oh, you think you're going to see the best in me? Let me show you how ugly I really am." They stretched me as much as (more than?) I ever stretched them.
Most of the group members had a hard time pushing through anything that was difficult for them, particularly when I asked them to do things they hadn't done before. One Friday I brought the fixings for making paper airplanes, plus had different "jobs" lined up that would allow for a few different ways to participate in the activity (like, making a runway, finding plane designs, making airplanes). All kinds of easy-yet-fun goodness.
I can't foooolllllddd paaappppeeerrrrrr. This is boring. I don't want to do this. Why do we have to do this? Why can't we play Pictureka instead?
Oh, yes, my adorablenesses. You can do this, and we will do it together.
I can't foooolllllddd paaappppeeerrrrrr. This is boring. I don't want to do this. Why do we have to do this? Why can't we play Pictureka instead?
Oh, yes, my adorablenesses. You can do this, and we will do it together.
I haaaatttttte paper. I haaaaatttttttttte airplanes.
Good grief. 45-55 minutes later -- despite all the "I cannot do this"s and "I hate this"s -- we tested several designs to see which flew the straightest, furthest, highest, etc. And the kids were suddenly all that was great! The following weeks, they were all do you remember when we made paper airplanes?
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| Oh yes, I remember. |
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| 85 days of preparation. 115 days in South America. 165 days of reflecting. 365 days of learning. |
You know how it's tough to think about something when you're in it? And that it isn't until you step out of a situation that you can start to give meaning to it? Both the amazing and painful experiences this year gave me a LOT to consider. Over the last six months, I felt like one part of my brain was trying to process and make sense of everything right away, but another part of my brain was trying to deploy some sort of mechanism to prevent me from thinking about it all until I was ready. At other times I felt like I knew exactly why there was a noticeable difference between pre-Chile and post-Chile Kat, but that I couldn't express it clearly or coherently to myself, let alone to anyone else. At times I genuinely didn't know what to do, and at other times I felt like I knew exactly what to do about it but didn't feel capable of doing so.
I was overwhelmed. I did not expect my brain to hurt when I got back. It caught me off guard that I sounded and felt like my Friday Fun kids as I was trying to both reflect and get back into my life. (Whoa. What. Did. I. Just. Do? And, I know I can't do what I did before, but what does that meeeaaaaaannnnn? How am I supposed to handle [X circumstance, Y situation, Z conundrum] all at once? There is something wrooonnnnngggggg with me! I must have a brain disease for reals.)
At some point in the last month, something gave. I still don't know what or why, but something gave just enough that I had room take a deep breath and collect myself. If the pattern holds, I am not to the point where I can say "that was great!" about the last few months of reflection, or "remember that time when I had to refill my apple cart? that was awesome!" But I feel better.
By three methods we may learn wisdom; first by reflection...
I haven't made any final decisions about what I learned this year, or what to do about what I learned. If I'm honest with myself, I haven't fully incorporated any new understandings or put into motion any of my next steps. (Well, one of my next steps is in motion -- I start a new job tomorrow!)
And I cannot claim to be any wiser now than I was a year ago today, but the makings for a good starting point are there.
















































